7 THINGS INTROVERTS DESLIKE SO MUCH
Most of these things will sound petty to extroverts, but those things that come so easily to you can be a hurdle to introverts. It's not rocket science to realize that the world we are living in is highly extroverted and everything is conformed to extroverts.
Although they make up the majority above 60% of the population, the needs of introverts should also be considered.
As Susan Cain pointed out in her best-selling book "Quiet", Western culture is dominated by extroverted ideals, the false belief that the best person is outgoing, highly sociable, and a natural in the spotlight.
According to the psychological definition, introverts are individuals who direct their energy toward their inward world rather than the external world, and to recharge, they need to spend time alone but remember it does not mean they're sociopaths. Studies indicated that the frontal lobe of an introverted brain is more active than other people. To balance out the rate of activities occurring to them, they prefer less stimulating environments. They don't hate extroverts, they dislike the side effects it has on them.
These situations have succumbed introverts into a lot of the most annoying everyday activities they have to bare like small talk, crowds, and social gatherings.
"Living in an extroverted world is exhausting." Jessica Peterson.
1CROWDS
All these people, the mare number, freaks introverts. Having to work through the crowd in the subway or at church meetings is very uncomfortable. They don't know them and yet it feels like everyone is staring at them even though they know very well that no one is.
On the other hand, extroverts are not bothered by crowds they feel energized by them. Extroverts are attracted while introverts are repelled by crowds.
" I will never be a crowd person, I am too much in love with solitude and I'm afraid it is too much in love with me too." The dreamer.
Big crowds separate introverts in a way they don't admire or gain anything from. Small groups make them included. Anxious introverts are the poorest at handling crowds. They steer away at every chance possible, it's most likely overwhelming to them. Being among a lot of people, strangers they know nothing about can even trigger full-blown panic attacks.
2SOCIAL OCCASIONS
Introverts prefer hanging out with two or three friends. They barely are social butterflies. Do we have to talk and mingle with all these people? I think I will just sit in the corner and watch them. That is good enough. What is a full-blown description of fun to extroverts is very relative to introverts.
3SMALL TALK
"I am sitting in a church waiting for whoever is leading the service to start already. My prayers are answered but to my utter dismay, she goes on to say that everyone should say hi to their neighbors, take a walk around and get to know them a little." Really? Do we have to? Can't we just go on?
Small talk is so exhausting and uneasy. Most Introverts get lost in what to say and do. They get nervous and their mind goes blank. Generally, they are always a million and one things on their mind but when ambushed with having to talk to a new human being, their mind bails on them. There's just a lot of comfort and peace in silence. If the exchanges are pointless like small talk, then why put the effort into it?
Conversations demand a lot of energy, at least to introverts and they feel that if it's nothing meaningful, I mean small talk mostly comprises anonymous topics like politics and weather, then why delve?
4MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT INTROVERTS
If you are an introvert then you know what I'm talking about. All those things that everyone believes about this personality have zero bases at all. Examples of misconceptions are;
• Introverts cannot be leaders.
• Introverts don't like people.
• Introverts are rude.
• Introverts should come out of their cocoons.
Before you conclude anything, understand the situation first. For instance, they say because introverts do not like loud environments, or do not like crowds they cannot make good leaders. What everyone seems to forget is that there are other very important skills like listening skills, empathy, and observational skills that make them excellent leaders.
All these presumptions are unsettling parts of introverts' lives. It's tragic that people still think that introversion means no friends, and shy and unsociable people, and yet the truth is, introverts value friends, talks, and connections. They can make it in any career from acting to comedy.
5QUESTIONS
I would like to believe that they come from a place of concern and pure curiosity, otherwise, Introverts' forbearance and endurance would be for nothing. All these unwarranted questions that should never be asked are upsetting to introverts. The way people ask meddling questions about the introvert's moods or demeanors is startling;
• Why are you so quiet?
• Why are you sitting alone in the corner?
• I have never seen you smile, you should try it.
• You don't talk much do you?
• Why don't you like being around people?
Maybe, they just don't comprehend them but the questions make them feel like they're being judged and of course, miss understood. It might even be someone you love but asking all these questions does not help. Approach it differently, the questions make them feel embarrassed and awkward for no reason.
6BEING LOUD
This is a strong suit for most extroverts. At times, it's fun to be loud when singing in the shower or when you are angry at the world, but it's a different thing from your home's or work's default setting. A loud environment is very distracting and makes concentration very hard for everyone but impossible for introverts.
Silent, conducive spaces allow for the proper flow of thoughts and analysis of situations. Introverts prefer to listen before they speak and unlike their extroverted counterparts who do not mind loud conversations. Introverts are more than average individuals, more sensitive, and respond faster to stimuli. Did you know that according to research, an introvert may produce more saliva when lemon is placed on their tongues? This illustrates how they might also respond similarly to noise. This is caused by the high activity in their brains and explains their withdrawn personalities.
7PERSONAL SPACE
Most humans like getting close maybe for some like extroverts, too close. Introverts, on the other hand, need personal space with no interruptions. Their need to be alone should never be taken as some other conditions like depression or disliking people.
It is so peaceful and fulfilling to lock themselves in a room alone with everything they need. They are just fine. Their preferences do not mean they are abnormal. Keep in mind that personal space gives them time to think and do other things without needing to worry about other people's needs. They survive best with a small group of people or alone.
CONCLUSION
People do not outgrow introversion, they just adapt but they are still introverted. When you get to know them, you will realize how talkative they can be. They have a public personality where are introverts and an "inside" Personality where they are extroverts in their own right.
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