People always remember fondly how you made them feel way above everything else. The trick then to becoming a more pleasant, likable person all around is to treat others with respect and decency. It's always what you don't do, don't say, do or say that has an impact on how others feel.

Human beings are naturally ill-disposed to those who are frantic for attention, those who try to show everyone how important they are. It's frankly simple, be kind, be a good listener and generally show care. Be confident and friendly and you will set yourself a good impression of yourself on others.

In this journey of likability, be careful not to end up being a people-pleaser and shirk the person you are. In your efforts, don't disregard your true identity. The most prominent approach is to recognize why people do not like you and work on that front.

How do you know if you're doing something unlikeable and what are some unlikely things people dislike?

According to TalkSpace therapist, Joanna Filidor, IMFT, everyone cares, at least a little bit, about what others think of you, and that makes most individuals want to live up to the exemplar of others. As good or bad as that sounds, individuals worry about what they are doing all the time, whether whatever they're doing is likable or unlikable in the eyes of others.

Key behaviors that make people unlikeable

1. Bragging

Bragging is an act of self-promotion that is frustrating and many people do not relish it. Those people who joke, and make fun of themselves while intending to let others know how smart or rich they are. For example, an individual makes fun of how their new Porsche is not fast enough. A failed attempt at masking their true discretion of letting everyone know they have a Porsche. People see right through that, usually.

2 Gossiping

The tell-tale of others and what they did is a turn-off. No one is interested in other people's lives. Why are you prying into other people's misconduct? You put yourself out as a negative and spiteful person.

3 Not listening

Paying attention while others speak says a lot about who you are. Do not answer your phone calls or messages right in the middle of conversations. It shows a lack of interest and people will avoid any form of interaction with you in the future.

4. Negative attitude

Displaying a negative attitude can be detected easily by those around you and they will lose morale. New research shows that managers will not easily promote employees who are constantly pessimistic, consistently complaining, and have disagreeable behavior. It is stressful and unlikeable.

5. Being late

Do not be that person who is always late. It shows a lack of respect for your colleague's time and energy. Perpetual lateness undermines your input and the self-opinion others have of you. Work on your time management strategies.

2SMILE

Do not underestimate the power of a simple smile. It passes a ton of information and almost magically turns around the mood both for you and those around you. Graig

Fraser from Quora, suggests that in addition to smiling laugh, grin and tell jokes more often. Naturally, people mirror the body language of individuals there talking to. Use positive body language and gestures and people will naturally be attracted to you.

The warmth you pass with a concerned face or a hug, a pat on the shoulder, tells those around you that you can be trusted and relied upon.

2 BE ENTHUSIASTIC

Everyone wants to spend more time with those people who make them feel great. They are like magnets. Their enthusiasm is so infectious and we can't seem to get enough of it. Along with a smile, show some charisma and energy, recommended Rosalinda Oropeza Randall, an etiquette and civility expert and author of "Don't burb in the boardroom" After spending time with you, people will walk away with a fuzzy warm feeling which most likely they will pass it to someone else.

Enthusiasm inspires confidence, increases morale, and establishes loyalty. Enthusiasm makes you portray all your other values easily. It keeps you focused, positive, and persuasive, and stand out among others. All these values add to your likeability. Remember enthusiasm is energy, the zest both mentally and physically that drives you.

3 BE SUPPORTIVE

Being supportive is being there for others all around with emotional, mental, and physical support.

Mental support Your colleagues, friends, and family might be going through a stressful phase in their lives, maybe their work is too much and too stressful. They open up and let you know, it's up to you to ease the burden they feel by listening and encouraging them or finding solutions to their troubles. Mental support goes a long way. Steering them through dark times like depression or other mental health disorders.

Emotional Be the friend your bereaved friend is looking for. They need someone to lean on during hard trying emotional times. Losing someone, for example, is not an easy road to maneuver alone. People will not forget how you were present when they needed you.

Physical support This includes the literal support you offer to others around you. It can be as superficial as helping an elderly lady or a child cross the road or carry groceries to big deeds of help like sponsoring the underprivileged in society.

Being present and touching others in different capacities will guilelessly make you likable in the eyes of those who help others. Genuine deeds of empathy are natural magnets to others without any magical effort. The thought to follow up on that associate or friend who was hospitalized shows that you care enough to remember and check their progress.

4 ACCOUNTABILITY

Taking responsibility for your actions tells others a lot about the person you are. People do not appreciate people who are perennial lies or lazy or those who can never acknowledge their missteps or censure others. If you have slighted others in any way, are you willing to admit the error and apologize?

The small efforts determine whether people will gravitate toward you or away from you. Your accountability also means keeping your promises. Keep your end of the bargain. It's better to undersell and over-deliver than to do the opposite. Make agendas and pledges that you know you can deliver. People will not like being stood up on a date or being late on a deadline. Follow through on your promises to build trust.

5MEMORIZE AND USE OTHER PEOPLE'S NAMES

Remember the last time someone new remembered your name and how it made you feel? Calling people by their names when greeting or mid conversations, drives home the personal conversations. It makes it hard to forget you. To easily remember those names, find a way to remember, write them down or associate them with other things or people you know with similar names.

Conclusion

Remember there will always be people who will still dislike you no matter how hard you try. The end goal here is to make those that matter to you feel you and see the good in you, like your family and real friends. Filidor recommends identifying what leads you to be authentic versus inauthentic." It is the first step in being comfortable in yourself" no matter how others perceive you. The first person you should strive to be likable to is yourself. They are facets in yourself and your life you can make them more likable and others out of your control.

A study conducted at the University of California Los Angeles ( UCLA) in 2016, revealed that highly likable people exhibit traits like transparency, sincerity empathy, and capacity for understanding others. Their personality inclinations have often been associated with the notion of emotional intelligence.