We have all found ourselves here more than once. Mostly it might just be small decisions but what do you do when it is such a big decision that might influence the rest of your life?
You have written lists, drawn maps, and even done calculations but are still stuck at the beginning.
Here are recommendations on how to arrive at the best decision possible.
A) Define the Decision
Identify the decision you need to make.
Understand what the options are and what the potential outcomes might be. Put down all the pros and cons of either decision and see how each will impact you. Analyze the outcome of each decision well.
B) Have enough data
Ensure you are well-informed beforehand.
Collect relevant information about each option. Research, talk to experts, gather data, and make sure you have a comprehensive understanding of the situation first. Making a decision poorly informed could lead to poor decisions that you will regrate later. Being well-informed gives you a complete picture.
C) Clarify Your Priorities
Determine what factors are most important to you in this decision.
The decision is yours therefore consider your values, goals, aspirations, and the impact the decision will have on various aspects of your life. Your priorities as a person should be an important determinant in your decision.
D) Identify the alternatives
Possible scenarios/plans A, B, C ....
As you collect information, you will probably identify several possible paths of action or alternatives. You can also use your imagination and additional information to construct new alternatives. In this step, you will list all possible and desirable alternatives.
E) Visualize Outcomes
Imagine each potential outcome as vividly as you can.
This can help you connect emotionally with the consequences of each choice. How will the outcome be? Will be satisfied with it or at least close to satisfaction compared to other alternatives.
F) Seek Advice
Consult with trusted friends, family members, mentors, or experts who have relevant and/or similar experience(s).
They can provide different perspectives and insights that you might not have considered. They could be able to see the situation better from a distance and they are free from influences like emotions or pressure.
G) Consider intuition
Pay attention to your intuition and instincts.
Sometimes, your subconscious mind can guide you toward the right decision.
H) Give yourself some time
It’s hard to think clearly under pressure, and sometimes your first idea isn’t always your best one.
Give yourself the chance to sit on a problem for a while so that you can process your options and feel confident about the course of action you choose. Sometimes, taking a break and coming back to the decision with a fresh perspective after a good night's sleep can provide clarity.
I) Think Long-Term
Consider the potential impact of your decision in the long run. Will it align with your future goals and plans?
Don’t be limited to current needs and forget that time will pass. Don’t just focus on the now.
J) Embrace Uncertainty
Understand that no decision is entirely risk-free.
Accept that uncertainty is a part of life and that you're making the best decision with the information available to you.
K) Make the Decision
Once you've thoroughly analyzed the options, trust your judgment and make the decision.
Remember that making no decision can also have consequences. After making the decision, commit to it wholeheartedly. Take the necessary steps to put your choice into action.
L) Learn and Adapt
Regardless of the outcome, view the decision as a learning experience.
If the decision turns out to be less than ideal, consider what you can learn from it to make better choices in the future.
M) Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that making big decisions can be challenging.
Avoid dwelling on regrets and focus on moving forward. After all, nobody knows it all and we are bound to make mistakes.
