Gradually, society has started shifting to the realization that just maybe boys and men are being left out of this advancement. It is a new world with changing political, social, economical, and technological atmosphere.

It's apparent in both developing and developed worlds that the number of boys and men flanking education, flanking their roles and responsibilities, and failing in meaningful relationships is increasing tremendously to a dire rate. It's almost as if the men are saying "If the women want to scale the top, then we will sit back and watch them."

These men show symptoms of disenchantment with life-like;

1No need for education

The rates of male school dropouts are very high. Many do not reach college if they make it out of high school.

2No interest in working

A good number quit or do not put any effort into working. They lack the incentive to work towards their goals and ambitions. They are just living in the moment. Between 1999 and 2019 alone, the percentage of 16 to 24-year-old males participation in the workforce fell by 17.7% that number is projected to increase in the next 10 years.

3Addiction

Most men struggle with various forms of addiction, from alcohol and substance abuse to internet addiction and video games. These habits most likely took root during teenage years and it gets hard to unhook later.

4Lack of inspiration in life

The desire to be better people in society, to establish good relationships and foundations for healthy families, and to achieve all goals and dreams seems to have left these men. Most succumb to carefree life and show little or no interest at all in anything.

Why do men feel left out

Research showed that in our current societies, " boy energy" is at best not valued and at worst demonized. In response, the young men decide that it's not worth it for them to invest their time and energy back into society. They just do not see the fruits of their hard work.

1Lack of role models

A lot of concern has risen about the lack of frontier in young men's lives. A lot of organizations and older women have shown remarkable effort in providing clear paths and encouragement to young women and girls. This has seen great improvement in well all-rounded, strong women we encountered today.

Men and young boys do not have that. It begs the question What is the older male generation doing while the younger generation is drowning before their eyes? They're so many men in positions of power in comparison to women and every boy has a father or uncle but yet they lack role models.

No one wants to come out and show them the path to manhood. These only leaves their fragile selves at the mercy of the lost or emotionless men depicted on their screen as points of reference.

2Broken families

Sadly, this is a common phenomenon in this century. Many families are divorced or separated. In most cases, children end up with their mothers. These young boys need their fathers to give them a sense of direction and belonging. The worrying realization is that even those with their fathers show similar symptoms of neglect and emotional lacking.

Their relationships with their fathers are non-existent. A lot of busy schedules and misplaced priorities are to blame for this. Fathers are always away at work or business and their sons are always on their phones and computers. The one-on-one conversations have evolved into transactions. "Dad, I need pocket money, oh I'll send it in the evening."

3Women's standards are raising

The girl child is by far currently, way more equipped mentally, emotionally, and financially than decades ago. These abrupt changes have caused a shift in the way things have always worked. That has left most men confused and lost.

The crumbling societies certainly make them question their masculinity and rethink their purpose and role in society. Colleges and universities' data show that they enroll more girls than boys and the dropout rates and indiscipline cases among girls are significantly lower than that of boys.

The world is shifting its attention to girls, from affirmative action, legislation to campaigns that support the plight of women. While all the efforts are meant for good, the flip side of all these makes the boys and men feel like they're accountable and feel guilty for how society is and has been.

4 Toxic masculinity

Unfortunately, patriarchy is also not fair to men. The number of responsibilities and expectations burdened on their shoulders is too hard and in most instances, it affects their mental, physical and emotional health.

Masculine norms encourage men to be tough, brave, independent and show no emotions from a tender age. The flipside is being seen as weak, irresponsible, and cowardly. Most men cannot express emotions even when they are in turmoil. Toxic masculinity succumbs men to loneliness and feelings of inadequacy. What does masculinity got to do with emotions anyway?

Why do men feel lonely and left out

• Fear r of being judged as weak and a weakling if they open up and seek help.

• Toxic masculinity; they cannot share their feelings or their mental struggles. They bare their burdens on their own. They are never comfortable being vulnerable.

• Neglect; society neglects men and assumes that they should just be fine. Men lack any form of support.

• Overburdening responsibilities, the demands and expectations from their families and society give men virtually no time to form friendships and connections. In a nutshell, men should put in the individual effort to break loose from toxic masculinity and embrace positive and healthy masculinity. They should believe that it's okay to open up and share their fears and worries and there would be a listening ear. Older men should take up the mantle and provide guidance and support to the younger generations.